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Why You Shouldn't Date Your Best Friend's Brother towering over me at six feet , two inches, and had that teenage bad-boy look to him.
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I swooned. We stayed up talking for hours that night and almost every night after that for the four years we were together. I'm not going to lie. It was awkward at first — not between us but for the people around us. I'd been friends with Michael's sister for about seven years by this time and our families knew each other exceedingly well.
So, you could probably guess that my parents weren't thrilled to find out that the only person they trusted to take Kristie and me to a nightclub for the first time I grew up in the Caribbean, where the legal drinking age is 18 was now my boyfriend.
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It was this weird dichotomy where they truly trusted him with my life, just as long as we absolutely were not dating.
I'm not sure where I got the gumption to do this, but I decided that Michael and I would proceed as if everyone was as excited about it as we were, until they were, and it worked. It's been more than five years since we broke up and my parents still openly talk about how he was the best guy I've ever dated. Thanks, Mom and Dad. I'm glad we have similar taste in guys? I don't know. Giphy Obviously, similar taste in guys wasn't something Kristie and I had in common since, you know, I dated her brother.
She never openly questioned our relationship, but there were times I felt like it pushed us apart, particularly toward the end of it. Michael and I had one of those year-long breakups that lingers way past the actual expiration date of the relationship.
No one cheated, or fell out of love, or anything dramatic like that. But, being almost 10 years younger than Michael was, I felt like I needed to go off on my own for a while.
I'd gone from living at home with my parents to living in my college dorm where I Skyped my hometown boyfriend every day for four years.
In a lot of ways, dating my best friend's brother was what kept me feeling close to home when I felt most alone.
You could say that Kristie was kind of like our lifeline. So, when Michael found out that I'd moved on more than a year after our breakup and that she'd neglected to tell him, he took it pretty badly. I could feel the cosmic shift in my friendship with Kristie almost instantly.
In trying to support me as a friend, she'd failed him as a sister and now, she had to do major damage control, which meant not-so-subtly implying that I should remove myself from the equation. It always comes back to high school math, huh? If I was going to be seeing other people, I needed to cut Michael off for good. Looking back, I don't blame Kristie for taking sides because I would do the same for my brother.
But now, when Kristie and I speak, it's in vague generalizations about how our lives are going — the weather, apartment woes, and any noteworthy career changes. When we talk about our families, we acknowledge very quickly that everyone is doing well. She never mentions Michael by name and I never ask. You see them just as much as you see your friend and you begin to notice characteristics about them that you like.
You also start having more and more conversations with him. You begin to learn things about him and find qualities that you admire becoming more and more infatuated. But what happens when the feelings are mutual?
Number one, Time. The ability to balance is feasible, but still an unnecessary challenge. Dont know how to deal? These readers give their advice on making it work or not!
Don't know how to deal? These readers give their advice on making it work — or not! Knowing I had to tread lightly, I told him I thought his brother was attractive, and I wanted to get know him better. I was so shocked that my friend was cool about it!
He said he appreciated me being upfront about it and just telling him what was going on.