My best friend is dating a married man
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If you disapprove of dating married people, for instance, your BFF knows that. Your job as One of my best friends hooked up with a married guy. She is also.
My friend recently starting dating a man who is unhappily married. I'll ask my guides to help her for her highest good, but it is ultimately what.
Should I tell her what I think about the whole situation?
Is there a way to say it without sounding judgmental? Should I caution her that she is likely to end up hurt?
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Or, maybe he is violating the terms of their marriage, a hurtful thing, but one that many people do for many different reasons, and not something that will be mitigated at all by your interference. Are you complicit in this because you know about it? Yes, a little bit. But you also know that systemic racism exists, that a tremendous inequality in distribution of wealth exists and that many people in your community go hungry every day.
And your knowledge of those things makes you culpable in them as well. I strongly suggest you start by trying to right some of those problems. We have a six-year old boy, and they have two children, an eight-year-old boy and a four-year-old girl. For years, now, the kids have socialized, because we socialize. I know it sounds horribly snobby to say this, but their kids are allowed to do whatever they want, whenever they want. When she did I learned that she miscarried at four months after a particularly brutal fight with the lowlife…We cried about it, rekindled our friendship and she told me that his causing her to lose their child finally gave her the urgent motivation to move on.
My friend had been single since the incident. Sso I encouraged her to fix herself up, go out, and live. She did. Maybe not physically, but definitely emotionally. He is the first man that my friend has been with since coming out of her shell, so to speak.
I find myself distancing myself from her and I hate this. So, I ask you, what should I do? Do I speak up? Will it cause a fight?